Licking isn’t always Love: When your Dog is asking you to Step Back

You're leaning in to kiss your dog, they lick your face — and you think:

Aww, they love me back!

But that lick might not mean what you think.

Dogs are masters of subtle communication.

And one of their most misunderstood behaviors is licking as a form of appeasement — not affection.

🤝What is Appeasement in Dogs?

Appeasement signals are a dog's way of saying:

"I don't want conflict. Please stay calm. I'm no threat."

Licking can be one of those signals — especially when:

• You're hugging your dog tightly

• You're too close to their face

• They're feeling overwhelmed by attention

It's a polite way of saying:

👉 "Please give me a bit more space."

🧠 But I Thought Licking meant Love?

Yes — sometimes it does!

Dogs do lick affectionately. But context is everything.

If your dog licks you while turning their head away, freezing, or yawning, it's more likely a calming behavior than a loving one.

😬 Why this matters (Especially for Kids)

When humans miss these subtle cues and continue hugging or staying close, a dog may feel they have no other choice but to escalate — and that's when bites happen.

Many bite cases involve dogs who were "just licking a second ago".

💡 So, What can you do?

Learn to read your dog's body language

Avoid face-to-face hugs or direct eye contact unless your dog seeks it

Teach children to respect pet boundaries

Let your dog initiate affection — and stop when they give calming signals

Respect their signals.

Strengthen your bond.

Stay safe.